We all get mad at each other,who doesn't?
From the homefront to the office space to the bus stations, train stations and every other space,we will always get in conflict with someone.
Either consciously, that is your fault or passively which most times might not be totally your fault.
Conflicts will always happen between friends, couples, coworkers, commuters and acquaintances.
There is no way you will go through this world without getting into one. No way.
Conflicts sometimes leads to eternal enmity and sometimes conflicts births stronger bonds depending on the parties willingness to make amends and forge ahead.
That's because the conflict has shown both parties what the other party embraces and detests.
But,you know,some people are naturally angry and have no joy and seldom gives same, so moving on can be an uphill task to such person.
While we can all have some meltdown, should you stay mad and in the process, ruin your day?
Most of us stay in the reactive stage when in conflict. Why?
The need for expansive explanations to assuage anyone who cares to listen the reason you are right and the other party wrong.
Sheer waste of time.
Either you like it or not, someone who has decided that s/he wants you to be in their bad books is all they want,how do you convince such person to hear you out?
You stay in the reaction stage longer than usual, sulking, complaining, cussing and doing all forms of activities to process why you are even in the situation in the first place.
You yell at your partner,your coworkers or fellow commuter just to prove a point.
And what's that point you are trying to prove?
I'm right,you are wrong or you want apologies from the other party.
You stay mad and the moments metamorphose into momentum and you loose your peace.
Subconsciously, you transfer your aggression to someone that doesn't even know why you are angry.
The challenge here is that, you know how a conflict starts but you can't put an end to it because of the need to be right by explanation or by your own rational opinion of the situation.
You linger in a spot to rationalize your feelings and it consumes you to the extent of kicking yourself and analyzing the situation while the other party is not even at the background any longer.
There are no seamless conflicts by the way but your quest for peace should consume your rationalization of any unfortunate event that gave and kept you angry.
There are ways by which you can overcome your feelings and it will help you in every step of the way.
How do you do it?
By simply thinking of the resolution before,during and after any conflict.
The reason your feelings supersede your emotions at that angry moment is the need to react or respond.
Resolution is the ultimate goal in any conflict.
Even in wars,the need to resolve the issues that escalated the conflict is paramount to the powers that be because at the end of the conflict,resolution kicks in,why?
Wars can't continue forever because at the long run, neutral parties will be drawn along at the expense of their citizens.
Billions of dollars will be raised to rebuild annihilated cities and grants will come to put the economy back on track.
Back to the resolution phase because it's the final puzzle in the jigsaw of any conflict.
While you are angry which you have every right to,why not think first of the resolution before it even starts?
Resolution-based thinking will help you in analyzing the situation and you will have the capacity to either remain calm or know what to say in the face of any impending danger.
Most of the time,its our response and replies that triggers the other party to act irrationally and we take it back and forth till we generate a fracas that doesn't make any sense.
So, as you go about your daily routine,interacting with acquaintances and strangers alike,be guided in your composure and always think resolution-based thoughts in the face of any impending conflict and eschew all reactiveness that might want to becloud your reasoning.
